How To Know You’re Stuck And How To Get Unstuck In Your Love Life

Hi Wunder Women, it’s me, Sami!

Today I want to talk to you about a critical inner realization that is ESSENTIAL for moving forward in your love life and creating the relationship of your dreams.

Here’s what I want you to do – Take a good, hard look at your love experiences so far and ask yourself aloud- “Am I stuck here?”

We are all stuck in different ways when it comes to our love lives. It could look like-

  • Having the same kind of experiences in love again and again and again.
  • Dating the same kind of men that break your heart and keep you single for years.
  • Having one night stands or two night stands that don’t lead to a committed relationship.
  • Having a committed relationship that is stuck in the same place for years and won’t move to the next level of commitment like marriage.
  • Having a marriage which doesn’t get deeper and more fun, but is stuck at a place of low level intimacy and attraction

Being stuck could look like so many things but, at its bottom line, it means that there is “no change in status quo” when it comes to your love life. It probably looks the same for the last many years.

So today, stop, pause for a moment and really reflect and ask yourself – “Have I been stuck?”

If the answer is yes, please don’t beat yourself up! I have been in your place some years back and I turned it around for me but first I needed to realize that I was indeed stuck.

Awareness is the first step to wanting and embracing change. 

You see SO many women move in their lives without even the mildest realization that they are stuck and years of their life pass by and nothing changes for them and yet they keep on doing the same things again and again and get the same results with men again and again and nothing ever changes. So you can really congratulate yourself on being aware about what’s holding you back in your life.

Now let’s look at some of the reasons why we stay stuck.

Most of them come from placing the blame externally as if our life is not in our control but in control of someone or something else:

  • “My ex did this to me. So I am still recovering from the pain and trying to trust men.”
  • “I am a single mother and I have no time and money for men and dating.”
  • “I am too busy at my work and in my career to make time for a relationship and a man.”
  • “I want a man and a relationship, but I am not ready to do inner work and invest money in myself.” 

Now I am not saying these situations and struggles in your life are not real – money, career, time constraints, kids. They absolutely are, and yet can you see how many years of your life have passed giving these excuses?

And are you ready for several days, months and years to pass again before something new and beautiful happens in your life and it MOVES FORWARD?

I hope not, because I KNOW you deserve better and you deserve more. 

I changed my entire life literally – from being a top trained economist working for the United Nations to getting a certification to be a love coach, travelling the world and making money from home while helping women find and keep love!
How To Know You're Stuck And How To Get Unstuck In Your Love LifeI met my husband and enjoy the blessing of love every single day in my life as he treats me like the most precious thing on the planet! All of this happened within the space of a year, and if it can happen for me, I don’t see why it can’t happen for you.

The thing to note here is that it happened not because I was lucky or because I had some magic pill.

It happened because I took control of my life and took action to make it happen. I invested in private coaching myself, I did hard work on my inner healing, I committed myself to finding a love and work life that made me smile and inspired me every single day.

And that’s how you get unstuck.

Not by focusing on your problems and constantly opening and talking about your wounds to the world but taking constructive action every single day in the direction of what you want to build.

If you feel inspired, here are my first steps to help you get unstuck –

Step 1 –  Set an intention for yourself – It could look like I want to achieve X and Y by X and Y time.

Step 2-  Write down 1 baby step you can take every single day to make that come true.

Step 3-  DO it!

Make sure you are committed to yourself, and your dream enough to follow through the plan you make for yourself.  This is critical if you want to be able to trust in yourself and in your ability to create the life you want instead of being at the mercy of circumstances to make things happen for you.

Of course, if it’s your love life you want to fix, I’d be happy to be on your side and help you achieve whatever it is you want to achieve – inner healing, confidence, self-love, attract a great man into your life or the bring the one you have permanently closer.

But it starts with you. The change starts with you and the motivation and drive you have.

If you’re single, a great place to start with is my E-book  “Your Feminine Roadmap To His Commitment. Learn How To Inspire A Man’s Full Devotion.” It will give you the A to Z of what the process of dating should look like vs. what it looks like for most of us women in the world today.

As always, I’d love to hear back from you ladies. Just hit reply to this email if you want to chat for 30 mins on a clarity call directly with me. My assistant Pearl will set up an appointment for us to talk.

If you have questions you would like me to address in my upcoming videos, blogs or newsletters, just reply to this mail again and send them to me!

I am here for you to help you have the life that shines with a you that shines. You just have to reach out to me and let me hold your hand as I guide you in having the life and relationship of your dreams.


Have a great weekend my lovelies.

Love & Strength,


Sami Wunder

Sami Wunder is a certified dating and relationship coach, a blogger and inspirational speaker. She helps women all over the world reconnect with their feminine energy and attract and keep the man of their dreams. Sami has been seen on The Daily Mail, The Elephant Journal, The Natural Health Magazine, and The Huffington Post.

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